1。Charm2。TheMothandtheStar3。ContrastedTravelling4。TheOuterandtheInnerWoman5。OnSomeGildedMisalliances6。TheComplacencyofMediocrity7。TheDiscontentofTalent8。Slouch9。SocialSuggestion10。Bohemia11。SocialExiles12。\"SevenAges\"ofFurniture13。OurEliteandPublicLife14。TheSmallSummerHotel15。AFalseStart16。AHolyLand17。RoyaltyatPlay18。ARockAhead19。TheGrandPrix20。\"TheTreadmill\"
21。\"LikeMasterLikeMan\"
22。AnEnglishInvasionoftheRiviera23。ACommonWeakness24。ChangingParis25。Contentment26。TheClimber27。TheLastoftheDandies28。ANationontheWing29。Husks30。TheFaubourgSt。Germain31。Men\'sManners32。AnIdealHostess33。TheIntroducer34。AQuestionandanAnswer35。LivingonYourFriends36。AmericanSocietyinItaly37。TheNewportofthePast38。AConquestofEurope39。ARaceofSlaves40。IntrospectionTotheReaderTHEREexistedformerly,indiplomaticcircles,acuriouscustom,sincefallenintodisuse,entitledthePeleMele,contriveddoubtlessbysomedistractedMasterofCeremoniestoquelltheendlessjealousiesandquarrelsforprecedencebetweencourtiersanddiplomatistsofcontendingpretensions。Underthisrulenorankwasrecognized,eachpersonbeingallowedatbanquet,fete,orotherpublicceremonyonlysuchplaceashehadbeeningeniousorfortunateenoughtoobtain。
Anyonewishingtoformanideaoftheconfusionthatensued,oftheintriguesandexpedientsresortedto,notonlyinprocuringprominentplaces,butalsoinensuringtheintegrityofthePeleMele,shouldglanceovertheamusingmemoirsofM。deSegur。
Theaspiringnoblesandambassadors,harassedbythisconstantpreoccupation,hadlittletimeorinclinationleftforanyseriouspursuit,since,totakeamoment\'sreposeoranhour\'sbreathingspacewastoriskfallingbehindintheendlessandaimlessrace。
Strangeasitmayappear,theknowledgethattheyowedplaceandprefermentmoretochanceorintriguethantoanypersonalmeritorinheritedright,insteadoflesseningthevalueoftheprizesforwhichallwerestriving,seemedonlytoenhancethemintheeyesofthecompetitors。
Successwastheuniquestandardbywhichtheygaugedtheirfellows。
Thosewhosucceededrevelledintheadulationoftheirfriends,butwhenanyonefailed,theficklecrowdpassedhimbytobowatmorefortunatefeet。
Nobetterpicturecouldbefoundofthe\"world\"ofto-day,aperpetualPeleMele,wheresuchadvantagesonlyareconcededaswehavebeensufficientlyenterprisingtoobtain,andarestrongorcleverenoughtokeep-aconstantcompetition,adailysteeplechase,favorabletodaringspiritsandpersonalinitiativebutwiththedefectofkeepingfrailhumanityeveronthequivive。
Philosopherstellus,thatweshouldseekhappinessonlyinthecalmofourownminds,notallowingexternalconditionsortheopinionsofotherstoinfluenceourways。Thisloftydetachmentfromenvironmentisachievedbyveryfew。Indeed,thephilosophersthemselves(whomaybesaidtohaveinventedtheartof\"posing\")
weregenerallyasvainaspeacocks,profoundlypre-occupiedwiththeverdictoftheircontemporariesandtheirpositionasregardsposterity。
Manisborngregariousandremainsallhislifeaherdinganimal。
Asonekeenobserverhaswritten,\"Sogreatisman\'shorrorofbeingalonethathewillseekthesocietyofthoseheneitherlikesnorrespectssoonerthanbelefttohisown。\"Thelawsandconventionsthatgovernmen\'sintercoursehave,therefore,formedatemptingsubjectforthewritersofallages。Somehavelaboredhopingtoreformtheirgeneration,othershavewrittentooffersolutionsforlife\'smanyproblems。
Beaumarchais,whosepenetratingwitleftfewsubjectsuntouched,makeshisFigaroputthesubjectasidewith\"Jemepressederiredetout,depeurd\'etreobliged\'enpleurer。\"
Theauthorofthislittlevolumepretendstosettlenodisputes,aimsatinauguratingnoreforms。Hehaslightlytouchedonpassingtopicsandjotteddown,\"topointamoraloradornatale,\"someofthemoreobviousfoiblesandinconsistenciesofourAmericanways。
Ifastraybitofphilosophyhashereandthereslippedinbetweenthelines,itismostlyofthelaughing\"school,\"andusedmoreinbanterthaninblame。
Thismuchabused\"world\"isafairlyagreeableplaceifyoudonottakeitseriously。Meetitwithafriendlyfaceanditwillsmilegaylybackatyou,butdonotaskofitwhatitcannotgive,orattributetoitsverdictsmoreimportancethantheydeserve。
ELIOTGREGORY
Newport,Novemberfirst,1897
CHAPTER1-CharmWOMENendowedbynaturewiththeindescribablequalitywecall\"charm\"(forwantofabetterword),arethesupremedevelopmentofaperfectedrace,thelastword,asitwere,ofcivilization;thefloweroftheirkind,crowningcenturiesofgrowingrefinementandcultivation。Otherwomenmayuniteathousandbrilliantqualities,andattractiveattributes,maybebeautifulasAstarteorwittyasMadamedeMontespan,thoseendowedwiththepowerofcharm,haveinallagesandundereverysky,heldundisputedruleovertheheartsoftheirgeneration。
Whenwelookattheportraitsoftheenchantresseswhomhistorytellsushaveruledtheworldbytheircharm,andswayedthedestiniesofempiresattheirfancy,weareastonishedtofindthattheyhaverarelybeenbeautiful。FromCleopatraorMaryofScotlanddowntoLolaMontez,thetell-talecoinorcanvasrevealsthesamemarvellousfact。Wewonderhowthesewomenattainedsuchinfluenceoverthemenoftheirday,theirhusbandsorlovers。Wewoulddobettertolookaroundus,orinward,andobservewhatispassinginourownhearts。
Pause,readermine,amomentandreflect。Whohasheldthefirstplaceinyourthoughts,filledyoursoul,andinfluencedyourlife?
Wasshethemostbeautifulofyouracquaintances,theradiantvisionthatdazzledyourboyisheyes?Hasshenotratherbeensomegentle,quietwomanwhomyouhardlynoticedthefirsttimeyourpathscrossed,butwhograduallygrewtobeapartofyourlife-
towhomyouinstinctivelyturnedforconsolationinmomentsofdiscouragement,forcounselinyourdifficulties,andwhosewelcomewasthebrightmomentinyourday,lookedforwardtothroughlonghoursoftoilandworry?
Inthehurly-burlyoflifewelosesightofsomanythingsourfathersandmothersclungto,andhavedriftedsofarawayfromtheirgentlecustomsandsimple,home-lovinghabits,thatonewonderswhatimpressionoursocietywouldmakeonawomanofacenturyago,couldshebysomespellbedroppedintotheswingofmoderndays。Thegoodsoulwouldbeapttofinditratherafarcryfromthequietpleasuresofheryouth,to\"aladies\'amateurbicyclerace\"thatformedtheattractionrecentlyatasummerresort。
Thatweshouldhavecometothinkitnaturalandproperforayoungwifeandmothertopasshermorningsatgolf,lunchingattheclub-
houseto\"savetime,\"returninghomeonlyforahurriedchangeoftoilettostartagainonabicycleorforaroundofcalls,anoccupationthatwillleaveherjustthehalf-hournecessarytoslipintoadinnergown,andthenforhertopasstheeveningindancingoratthecard-table,shows,whenonetakesthetimetothinkofit,howunconsciouslywehavechanged,and(withallapologiestothegayhostessesandgracefulathletesofto-day)notforthebetter。
Itisjustinthesubtlequalityofcharmthatthewomenofthelasttenyearshavefallenawayfromtheireldersisters。Theyhavebeencarriedalongbyaloveofsport,andbythesetoffashion\'stide,notstoppingtoaskthemselveswhithertheyarefloating。Theydonotrealizealltheimportanceoftheiractsnorthetruemeaningoftheirmetamorphosis。
Thedearcreaturesshouldbecontent,fortheyhaveatlastescapedfromthebondageofages,havebrokentheirchains,andvaultedovertheirprisonwalls。\"Lordsandmasters\"havegraduallybecomeveryhumbleandobedientservants,andthe\"love,honour,andobey\"
ofthemarriageservicemightnowmorelogicallybespokenbytheman;onthelipsofthewomenofto-dayitisbutagraceful\"FACON
DEPARLER,\"andholdsonlythosewhochoosetobebound。
Itisnotmyintentiontorailagainsttheshort-comingsoftheday。ThatungratefultaskIleavetosternermoralists,andhopefulsoulswhonaivelyimaginetheycanstemthecurrentofanepochwiththebarrieroftheireloquence,orsweepbackanoceanofinnovationsbytheirlogic。Ishouldlike,however,toaskmysistersonequestion:Aretheyquitesurethatwomengainbythesechanges?Dotheyimagine,these\"sporty\"youngfemalesinshort-
cutskirtsandmannishshirtsandties,thatitisseductivetoalover,orahusbandtoseehisidolinaviolentperspiration,herdraggledhairblowingacrossasunburnedface,pantingupalonghillinfrontofhimonabicycle,franticathavinglostherrace?
ShadeofgentleWilliam!whosaidAwomanmoved,islikeafountaintroubled,-
Muddy,ill-seeming,thick,bereftofbeauty。
Andwhileitisso,nonesodryorthirstyWilldeigntosiportouchonedropofit。
Isthemoderngirlundertheimpressionthatmenwillbecontentedwithpoorimitationsofthemselves,tosharetheirhomesandbethemothersoftheirchildren?Sheisthrowingawaythesubstancefortheshadow!
Themomentwomenstepoutfromthesanctuaryoftheirhomes,theglamourthatgirlhoodormaternityhasthrownaroundthemcastaside,thatmomentwilltheyceasetorulemankind。Womenmayagitateuntiltheyhaveobtainedpoliticalrecognition,butwillawakefromtheirfoolishdreamofpower,realizingtoolatewhattheyhavesacrificedtoobtainit,thatthepricehasbeenveryheavy,andthefruitoftheirstrugglesbitterontheirlips。
Therearefewmen,Iimagine,ofmygenerationtowhomthewords\"home\"and\"mother\"havenotapenetratingcharm,whodonotlookbackwithsoftenedheartandtenderthoughtstofiresidescenesofeveningreadingsandtwilighttalksatamother\'sknee,realizingthatthebestintheirnaturesowesitsgrowthtotheseinfluences。
Isometimeslookaboutmeandwonderwhattheword\"mother\"willmeanlater,tomodernlittleboys。Itwillevoke,Ifear,aconfusedremembranceofsomecentaur-likebeing,halfwoman,halfwheel,orasitdidtoneglectedlittleRawdonCrawley,thevisionofaradiantcreatureingauzeandjewels,drivingawaytoendlessFETES-FETESfollowedbylongmornings,whenhewastoldnottomakeanynoise,orplaytooloudly,\"aspoormammaisresting。\"
Whatothermemoriescanthe\"successful\"womanofto-dayhopetoleaveinthemindsofherchildren?Ifthechildremembershismotherinthisway,willnotthemanwhohasknownandperhapslovedher,feelthesamesensationofemptyfutilitywhenhernameismentioned?
Thewomanwhoproposesagameofcardstoayouthwhocomestopassanhourinhersociety,canhardlyexpecthimtocarryawayaparticularlytendermemoryofherasheleavesthehouse。Thegirlwhohasrowed,ridden,orracedataman\'ssidefordays,withtheobjectofgettingthebetterofhimatsomesportorpastime,cannotreasonablyhopetobeconnectedinhisthoughtswithideasmoretenderormoreelevatedthan\"odds\"or\"handicaps,\"withanundercurrentofpiqueifhisunsexedcompanionhas\"downed\"himsuccessfully。
Whatman,unlesshebesingularlydissoluteorunfortunate,butturnshissteps,whenhecan,towardssomedaintyparlorwhereheissureoffindingasmiling,soft-voicedwoman,whosewelcomeheknowswillsoothehisirritatednervesandrestoretheevenbalanceofhistemper,whosecharmwillworkitssubtlewayintohistroubledspirit?Thewifeheloves,orthefriendheadmiresandrespects,willdomoreforhiminonesuchquiethourwhentwomindscommune,comingclosertotherealman,andmovinghimtobraverefforts,andnobleraims,thanallthebeautiesand\"sporty\"
acquaintancesofalifetime。Nomatterwhataman\'seducationortasteis,noneareinsensibletosuchanatmosphereortothegraceandwitcheryawomancanlendtothesimplestsurroundings。Sheneednotbebeautifulorbrillianttoholdhiminlifelongallegiance,ifshebutpossessthismagnetism。
MadameRecamierwasabeautiful,butnotabrilliantwoman,yetsheheldmenherslavesforyears。Toknowherwastofallunderhercharm,andtofeelitoncewastoremainheradorerforlife。Shewillgodowntohistoryasthetypeofafascinatingwoman。Beingaskedoncebyanacquaintancewhatspellsheworkedonmankindthatenabledhertoholdthemforeveratherfeet,shelaughinglyanswered:
\"Ihavealwaysfoundtwowordssufficient。Whenavisitorcomesintomysalon,Isay,\'ENFIN!\'andwhenhegetsuptogoaway,I
say,\'DEJA!\'\"
\"Whatisthiswonderful\'charm\'heiswritingabout?\"Ihearsomesprightlymaideninquireasshereadstheselines。Mydearyounglady,ifyouaskthequestion,youhavejudgedyourselfandbeenfoundwanting。ButtosatisfyyouasfarasIcan,Iwilltryanddefineit-notbytellingyouwhatitis;thatisbeyondmypower-butbynegatives,theonlywayinwhichsubtlesubjectscanbeapproached。
AwomanofcharmisneverflusteredandneverDISTRAITE。Shetalkslittle,andrarelyofherself,rememberingthatboresarepersonswhoinsistontalkingaboutthemselves。Shedoesnotbreakthethreadofaconversationbyirrelevantquestionsorconfabulateinanundertonewiththeservants。Nooneofherguestsreceivesmoreofherattentionthananotherandnoneareneglected。Sheofferstoeachonewhospeaksthehomageofherentireattention。Shenevermakesanefforttobebrilliantorentertainwithherwit。
Sheisfartoocleverforthat。Neitherdoesshevolunteerinformationnorconverseabouthertroublesorherailments,norwanderoffintodetailsaboutpeopleyoudonotknow。
Sheisallthings-toeachmanshelikes,inthebestsenseofthatphrase,appreciatinghisqualities,stimulatinghimtobetterthings-
forhisgayerhoursShehasavoiceofgladnessandasmileandeloquenceofbeauty;
andsheglidesIntohisdarkermusingswithamildandhealingsympathythatstealsawayTheirsharpnessereheisaware。
CHAPTER2-TheMothandtheStarTHEtruthofthesayingthat\"itisalwaystheunexpectedthathappens,\"receivesinthiscountryaconfirmationfromanunlooked-
forquarter,asdoesthefactofhumannaturebeingalways,discouragingly,thesameinspiteofvariedsurroundings。Thissoundslikeaparadox,butisanexceedinglysimplestatementeasilyproved。
ThatthegreatmassofAmericans,drawnastheyarefromsuchvariedsources,shouldtakeanyinterestinthecomingsandgoingsorsocialdoingsofasmallsetofwealthyandfashionablepeople,iscertainlyanunexpecteddevelopment。Thattoreadoftheamusementsandhomelifeofacliqueofpeoplewithwhomtheyhavelittleincommon,whosewholeeducationandpointofviewaredifferentfromtheirown,andwhomtheyhaverarelyseenandneverexpecttomeet,shouldaffordtheaveragecitizenanyamusementseemslittleshortofimpossible。
Oneacceptsasanaturalsequencethatabroad(whereanhereditarynobilityhaveruledforcenturies,andaccustomedthepeopletolookuptothemasthevisibleembodimentofallthatissplendidandunattainableinlife)suchinterestshouldexist。Thatthehome-comingofanEnglishorFrenchnoblemantohisestatesshouldexcitetheenthusiasmofhundredsmoreorlessdependentuponhimfortheiramusementormorematerialadvantages;thathismarriagetoanheiress-meaningtothemthere-openingofalong-closedCHATEAUandthebeginningofaperiodofprosperityforthedistrict-shouldexcitehisneighborsisnottobewonderedat。
Itiswellknownthatwholeregionshavebeenmadeprosperousbytheresidenceofacourt,witnessthewealthandtradebroughtintoScotlandbytheQueen\'spreferencefor\"theLandofCakes,\"andthediscontentandpovertyinIrelandfromabsenteeismandpersistentavoidanceofthatcountrybythecourt。Butinthisland,whereeveryreasonforinterestingoneclassinanotherseemslacking,thatthousandsofwell-to-dopeople(halfthetimenotborninthishemisphere),shoulddelightedlydevourcolumnsofincorrectinformationaboutNewYorkdancesandLenoxhouse-parties,wintercruises,orNewportcoachingparades,strikestheobserverasthe\"unexpected\"initspurestform。
Thatthisinterestexistsisabsolutelycertain。DuringatripintheWest,someseasonsago,IwasdumbfoundedtofindthatthemembersofacertainNewYorksetwerefamiliarlyspokenofbytheirfirstnames,andwasassailedwithallsortsofeagerquestionswhenitwasdiscoveredthatIknewthem。Acertainyounglady,atthattimeabelleinNewYork,wascurrentlycalledSALLY,andawell-knownsportsmanFRED,bythousandsofpeoplewhohadneverseeneitherofthem。Itseemsimpossible,doesitnot?Letuslookalittlecloserintothereasonofthisinterest,andweshallfindhowsimpleistheapparentparadox。
Perhapsinnocountry,inalltheworld,dotheimmensemiddleclassesleadsuchuninterestinglives,andhavesuchlimitedresourcesattheirdisposalforamusementorthepassingofleisurehours。
Abroadthemilitarybandsplayconstantlyinthepublicparks;themuseumsandpalacesarealwaysopenwhereintopassrainySundayafternoons;everyvillagehasitsreligiousFETESandlocalfair,attendedwithdancingandgames。Allthesementalrelaxationsarelackinginournewercivilization;lifeisstrippedofeverythingthatisnotdistinctlypractical;thedullroundofweeklytoilisonlybrokenbythedulleridlenessofanAmericanSunday。
Naturally,thesepeoplelongforsomethingoutsideofthemselvesandtheirnarrowsphere。
Suddenlytherearisesaclasswhosewealthpermitsthemtobreakthroughtheironcircleofworkandboredom,whodopicturesqueanddelightfulthings,whichappealdirectlytotheimagination;theybuildasummerresidencecomplete,insixweeks,withfurnitureandbric-a-brac,onthetopofaroadlessmountain;theysailinfairylikeyachtstosummerseas,andmarrytheirdaughterstotheheirsofducalhouses;theyfloatuptheNileindahabeeyah,orpassthe\"monthofflowers\"infarJapan。
Itisbuthumannaturetodelightinreadingofthesethings。Herethegreatmassofthepeoplefind(andeagerlyseizeon),theelementofromancelackingintheirlives,infinitelymoreenthrallingthanthedoingsofanynovel\'sheroine。Itisreal!
Itistakingplace!and-stilldeeperreason-ineveryambitiousAmericanheartlingersthesecrethopethatwithluckandgoodmanagementtheytoomaydothoseverythings,oratleastthattheirchildrenwillenjoythefortunestheyhavegained,injustthoseways。Thegloomofthemonotonouspresentisbrightened,thepatienttoilerreturnstohisdeskwithsomethingdefinitebeforehim-anobjectivepoint-towardswhichhecanstruggle;heknowsthatthisisnoimpossibledream。Dozenshavesucceededandprovetohimwhatenergyandenterprisecanaccomplish。
Donotlaughatthissuggestion;itisfartruerthanyouimagine。
Manyawearywomanhasturnedfromsuchreadingtohernarrowduties,feelingthatlifeisnotallwork,andwithrenewedhopeinthepossibilitiesofthefuture。
Doubtlessacertainamountofpurelyidlecuriosityismingledwiththeotherfeelings。IrememberquitewellshowingourcitysightstoaboredpartyofWesternfriends,andfailingentirelytoamusethem,when,happeningtomentionaswedroveuptown,\"theregoesMr。Blank,\"(namingaprominentleaderofcotillions),myguestsnearlyfellovereachotherandoutofthecarriageintheireagernesstoseethegentlemanofwhomtheyhadreadsomuch,andwhowas,inthosedays,apowerinhisway,andseveraltimesaftertheyexpressedthegreatestsatisfactionathavingseenhim。
Ihavefound,withrareexceptions,andtheexperiencehasbeenratherwidelygatheredalloverthecountry,thatthisinterest-
orcallitwhatyouwill-hasbeenentirelywithoutspiteorbitterness,ratherthedelightofachildinafairystory。Forpeoplearerarelyenviousofthingsfarremovedfromtheirgrasp。
Youwillfindthatawomanwhoisbitterbecauseherneighborhasagirl\"help\"oramorecomfortablecottage,rarelyfeelsenvytowardstheownersofopera-boxesoryachts。Suchheart-burnings(letushopetheyarefew)areamongaclassbornintheshadowofgreatwealth,andbredupwithtastesthattheycanneitherrelinquishnorsatisfy。Thelargemajorityofpeopleshowonlyagood-naturedinclinationtochaff,noneofthe\"classfeeling\"
whichcertainpapersandcertainpoliticianstrytoexcite。
Outsideofthelargecitieswiththeirforeign-bred,semi-
anarchisticpopulations,thetoneisperfectlyfriendly;forthesimplereasonthatitneverenteredintotheheadofanyAmericantoimaginethatthereWASanyclassdifference。Tohimhisrichneighborsaresimplyhisluckyneighbors,almosthisrelations,who,startingfromacommonstock,havebeenableto\"getthere\"
soonerthanhehasdone。Sohewishesthemluckonthevoyageinwhichheexpectstojointhemassoonashehashadtimetomakeafortune。
Solongastheworldexists,oratleastuntilwehavereformeditandadoptedMr。Bellamy\'sdelightfulschemeofexistenceasdescribedin\"LookingBackward,\"greatfortuneswillbemade,andpainfulcontrastsbeseen,especiallyincities,anditwouldseemtobethedutyofthepresstosoften-certainlynottosharpen-
theedgeofdiscontent。Aslongashumannatureishumannature,andthepoorcaretoreadofthedoingsofthemorefortunate,byallmeansgivethemthereadingtheyenjoyanddemand,butletitbewritteninakindlyspiritsothatitmaybeacultivationaswellasarecreation。Treatthisperfectlynaturalandhonesttastehonestlyandnaturally,for,afterall,itisThedesireofthemothforthestar,Ofthenightforthemorrow。
ThedevotiontosomethingafarFromthesphereofoursorrow。
CHAPTER3-ContrastedTravellingWHENourparentswenttoEuropefiftyyearsago,itwastheeventofalifetime-atourlovinglymappedoutinadvancewithadvicefromtravelledfriends。Passportswereprocured,booksread,willsmade,andfinally,prayerswereofferedupinchurchandsolemnleave-takingperformed。Onceontheotherside,descriptiveletterswereconscientiouslywritten,andeagerlyreadbyfriendsathome,-inspiteoftheseepistlesbeingonthethinnestofpaperandwithcrossingcarriedtoafineart,forpostagewashighintheforties。Aboveall,ajournalwaskept。
SuchajournalliesbeforemeasIwrite。Fourlittlevolumesinwornmoroccocoversandfaded\"Italian\"writing,morepreciousthanallmyotherbookscombined,theirsightrecallsthatlosttime-
myyouth-when,asareward,theywereunlockedthatImightlookatthedrawings,andthesweetestvoiceintheworldwouldreadtomefromthem!Happy,vanisheddays,thataresofarawaytheyseemtohavebeeninanotherexistence!
ThefirstvolumeopenswiththevoyageacrosstheAtlantic,madeinanAmericanclipper(amodelunsurpassedtheworldover),whichwasaccomplishedinthirteendays,afeatrarelyequallednow,bysail。
GenialCaptainNyewasincommand。Thesamewholater,whenasteampropelledvesselwasofferedhim,refused,asunworthyofaseaman,\"toboilakettleacrosstheocean。\"
Lifefriendshipsweremadeinthoselittlecabins,undertheswinginglampthetravellersre-readlastvolumessoastobepreparedtoappreciateeverythingonlanding。Ireland,EnglandandScotlandwerevisitedwithanenthusiasmbornofScott,thetediumoflongcoachingjourneysbeingbeguiledbythefirst\"numbers\"of\"Pickwick,\"overwhichthemenofthepartyroared,butwhichtheladiesdidnotcarefor,thinkingitvulgar,andnottobecomparedto\"Waverley,\"\"ThaddeusofWarsaw,\"or\"TheMysteriesofUdolpho。\"
Acircularlettertoourdiplomaticagentsabroadwaspresentedineachcity,ariteinvariablyfollowedbyaninvitationtodine,forwhichoccasionsablacksatinfrockwithalowbodyandafewsimpleornaments,including(supremeelegance)adiamondcross,werecarriedinthetrunks。InLondonatravellingcarriagewasboughtandstocked,theindispensablecourierengaged,halfguide,halfservant,whowasexpectedtoexploreacity,orwaitattable,asoccasionrequired。FourdayswerepassedbetweenHavreandParis,andtheslowprogressacrossEuropewasaccomplished,MurrayinonehandandByronintheother。
Onepageusedparticularlytoattractmyboyishattention。ItwasheadedbyanaivelittledrawingofthecarriageatanItalianinndoor,anddescribedhow,afterthedangersanddiscomfortsofanAlpinepass,theydescendedbysunnyslopesintoLombardy。Oh!therapturethatbreathesfromthosesimplepages!Thevintagescenes,themid-dayhaltforluncheoneatenintheopenair,theafternoonstart,thefrontseatofthecarriageheapedwithpurplegrapes,usedtofiremyyouthfulimaginationandnowrecallsMadamedeStael\'slineonperfecthappiness:\"Tobeyoung!tobeinlove!tobeinItaly!\"
DopeopleenjoyEuropeasmuchnow?Idoubtit!Ithasbecometoomuchamatterofcourse,anecessarypartoftheroutineoflife。
Muchofthebloomisbrushedfromforeignscenesbydescriptivebooksandphotographs,thatSt。Mark\'sorMt。Blanchasbecomeasfamiliartoachild\'seyeasthehousehelivesin,andinconsequencetherealitynowinsteadofbeingarevelationisoftenadisappointment。
Inmyyouth,itwasstillaneventtocross。Iremembermyfirstvoyageontheoldside-wheeledSCOTIA,andCaptainJudkinsinawheeledchair,andaperpetualbadtemper,beingpushedaboutthedeck;andourdelight,whentheinevitablefemaleaskinghim(threedaysout)howfarwewerefromland,gottheanswer\"aboutamile!\"
\"Indeed!Howinteresting!Inwhichdirection?\"
\"Inthatdirection,madam,\"shoutedthecaptain,pointingdownwardasheturnedhisbacktoher。
IfIremember,wewerethenthirteendaysgettingtoLiverpool,andmadetheacquaintanceonboardofthepeoplewithwhomwetravelledduringmostofthatwinter。Imagineanyonenowmakinganacquaintanceonboardasteamer!Inthosesimpledayspeopledependedonthefriendshipsmadeatsummerhotelsorboarding-
housesfortheirvisitinglist。Atpresent,whenagirlcomesout,hermotherpresentshertoeverybodyshewillbelikelytoknowifsheweretoliveacentury。Intheseventies,ladiescheerfullysharedtheirstate-roomswithwomentheydidnotknow,andoftenbecamefriendsinconsequence;butnow,unlessacertaindeck-suitecanbesecured,withbathandsitting-room,ononeortwoparticular\"steamers,\"thegreatladyisindespair。Yetourmotherswerequiteasrefinedasthepresentgeneration,onlytheytooklifesimply,astheyfoundit。
Childrenarenowtakenabroadsoyoung,thatbeforetheyhavereachedanagetoappreciatewhattheysee,Europehasbecometothematwice-toldtale。Sotrueisthis,thatareceiptformakingchildrengoodAmericansistobringthemupabroad。Oncetheygetbackhereitishardtoenticethemawayagain。
Witheachimprovementinthespeedofoursteamers,somethingoftheglamourofEuropevanishes。Thecrowdsthatyearlyrushacrossseeandappreciatelessinalifetimethanourparentsdidintheironetourabroad。AgoodladyofmyacquaintancewascomplainingrecentlyhowmuchParisboredher。
\"Whatcanyoudotopassthetime?\"sheasked。IinnocentlyansweredthatIknewnothingsoentrancingaslongmorningspassedattheLouvre。
\"Oh,yes,Idothattoo,\"shereplied,\"butIlikethe\'BonMarche\'
best!\"
AtripabroadhasbecomeapurelysocialfunctiontoalargenumberofwealthyAmericans,including\"presentation\"inLondonandawinterinRomeorCairo。Andjustasa\"smart\"Englishmanissuretotellyouthathehasnevervisitedthe\"Tower,\"ithasbecomegoodformtoignorethesight-seeingsideofEurope;hundredsofNewYorkersneverseeinganythingofParisbeyondtheRuedelaPaixandtheBois。TheywouldassoonthinkofgoingtoClunyorSt。Denisasofvisitingthemuseuminourpark!
SuchpeoplegotoFontainebleaubecausetheyarebuyingfurniture,andtheywishtoseethebestmodels。TheygotoVersaillesonthecoachand\"do\"thePalaceduringthehalf-hourbeforeluncheon。
Beyondthat,enthusiasmrarelycarriesthem。AssoonastheyhavesettledthemselvesattheBristolortheRhinbeginstheendlesstreadmillofleavingcardsonallthepeoplejustseenathome,andwhomtheywillmeetagaininacoupleofmonthsatNewportorBarHarbor。Thisdutyandtheall-entrancingoccupationofgettingclothesfillsupeverysparehour。Indeed,clothesseemtopervadetheairofParisinMay,theconversationrarelydeviatingfromthem。Ifyoumeetaladyyouknowlookingill,andaskthecause,itgenerallyturnsouttobe\"fourhoursadaystandingtobefitted。\"Incredibleasitmayseem,Ihavebeentoldofoneplainmaidenlady,whomakesatripacross,springandautumn,withthesoleobjectofgettinghertwoyearlyoutfits。
Rememberingthehundredsofcultivatedpeoplewhosedreaminlife(oftenunrealizedfromlackofmeans)hasbeentogoabroadandvisitthescenestheirreadinghasmadefamiliar,andknowingwhatsuchatripwouldmeantothem,andhowitwouldbelookedbackuponduringtherestofanobscurelife,Ifeltitalmostadutyto\"suppress\"awealthyfemale(doubtlessanAmericancousinofLadyMidas)whensheinformedme,theotherday,thatdecidedlyshewouldnotgoabroadthisspring。
\"Itisnotnecessary。Worthhasmymeasures!\"
CHAPTER4-TheOuterandtheInnerWomanITisasadcommentaryonourboastedcivilizationthatcasesofshopliftingoccurmoreandmorefrequentlyeachyear,inwhichthedelinquentsarewomenofeducationandrefinement,oratleastbelongtofamiliesandoccupypositionsinwhichonewouldexpecttofindthosequalities!Thereason,however,isnotdifficulttodiscover。
Inthewakeofourhastyandimmatureprosperityhascome(asitdoestoallsuddenlyenrichedsocieties)aloveofostentation,adesiretodazzlethecrowdbydisplaysofluxuryandrichtrappingsindicativeofcrudeandvulgarstandards。Thenewlyacquiredmoney,insteadofbeingexpendedforsolidcomfortsorarticleswhichwouldaffordlastingsatisfaction,islavishedonwhatcanbeworninpublic,ortheoutershellofdisplay,whilethehometableandfiresidebelongingsareneglected。Aglancearoundourtheatres,oratthemenandwomeninourcrowdedthoroughfares,issufficienttorevealtoevenacasualobserverthatthemaniaforfineclothesandwhatiscostly,PERSE,hasbecomethebesettingsinofourdayandourland。
Thetoneofmostofthepapersandofourtheatricaladvertisementsreflectsthisfeeling。Theamountofmoneyexpendedforaworkofartoranewbuildingismentionedbeforeanycommentastoitsbeautyorfitness。Aplayisspokenofas\"ManagerSoandSo\'sthirty-thousand-dollarproduction!\"Thefactthatafavoriteactresswillappearinfourdifferentdressesduringthethreeactsofacomedy,eachtoiletbeingaspecialcreationdesignedforherbyaleadingParisianhouse,isconsideredofsupremeimportanceandisdweltuponintheprogrammeasaspecialattraction。
Itwouldbeastonishingifthetasteofourwomenweredifferent,consideringthewayclothesareeternallybeingdangledbeforetheireyes。Leadingpaperspublishillustratedsupplementsdevotedexclusivelytothesubjectofattire,thuscarryingtemptationintoeveryhumblehome,andsuggestingunattainableluxuries。Windowsinmanyofthelargershopscontainlife-sizedmanikinsloadedwiththelatestcostlyandephemeralcapricesoffashionarrangedtocatchtheeyeofthepoorerclassofwomen,whostandinhundredsgazingatthedisplaylikelarksattractedbyamirror!Watchthosewomenastheyturnaway,andlistentotheirsighsofdiscontentandenvy。Dotheynottellvolumesaboutpettyhopesandambitions?
Idonotrefertothewealthywomenwhosetoiletsareinkeepingwiththeirincomesandthegeneralfootingoftheirhouseholds;
thattheyshouldspendmoreorlessinfittingthemselvesoutdaintilyisoflittleimportance。Thepointwherethissubjectbecomespainfulisinfamiliesofsmallmeanswhereyounggirlsimaginethattobeelaboratelydressedisthefirstessentialofexistence,and,inconsequence,bendtheirlaborsandtheirintelligencetowardsthisend。LastspringIaskedanoldfriendwheresheandherdaughtersintendedpassingtheirsummer。Heranswerstruckmeasbeingcharacteristicenoughtoquote:\"Weshouldmuchprefer,\"shesaid,\"returningtoBarHarbor,forweallenjoythatplaceandhavemanyfriendsthere。Butthetruthis,mydaughtershaveboughtthemselvesverylittleinthewayoftoiletthisyear,asourfinancesarenotinaflourishingcondition。Somypoorgirlswillbeobligedtomaketheirlastyear\'sdressesdoforanotherseason。Underthesecircumstances,itisoutofthequestionforustoreturnasecondsummertothesameplace。\"
Idonotknowhowthisanecdotestrikesmyreaders。Itmademethoughtfulandsadtothinkthat,inafamilyofintelligentandpracticalwomen,suchareasonshouldbeconsideredsufficienttooutweighenjoyment,socialrelations,evenhealth,andallowedtochangetheplansofanentirefamily。
AsAmericanwomenaresofondofcopyingEnglishwaystheyshouldbewillingtotakeafewlessonsonthesubjectofraimentfromacrossthewater。Asthisisnotintendedtobeadissertationon\"HowtoDressWellonNothingaYear,\"andasIfeelthegreatestdiffidenceinapproachingasubjectofwhichIknowabsolutelynothing,itwillbebettertosheerofffromthesereefsandquicksands。Everyonewhoreadstheselineswillknowperfectlywellwhatismeant,whenreferenceismadetothegoodsenseandpracticalutilityofEnglishwomen\'sdress。
Whatdisgustsandangersme(whenmywaytakesmeintooursurfaceorelevatedcarsorintoferryboatsandlocaltrains)istheutterdissonancebetweentheoutfitofmostofthewomenImeetandtheirpositionandoccupation。Souniversalisthis,thatitmightalmostbelaiddownasanaxiom,thattheAmericanwoman,nomatterinwhatwalkoflifeyouobserveher,orwhatthetimeortheplace,isalwayspersistentlyandgrotesquelyoverdressed。Fromthewomenwhofrequentthehotelsofoursummerorwinterresorts,downallthestepsofthesocialstaircasetothechar-woman,whoconsents(spasmodically)toremovethedustandwaste-papersfrommyoffice,thereseemstobethesamecompletedisregardoffitness。Theotherevening,inleavingmyrooms,Ibrushedagainstaportlypersoninthehalf-lightofthecorridor。Therewasashimmerof(whatappearedtomyinexperiencedeyesas)costlystuffs,ahugehatcrownedtheshadowitself,\"toppedbynoddingplumes,\"whichseemedtoaccountforthedepletedconditionofmyfeatherduster。
Ifoundoninquiringofthejanitor,thatthedressypersonIhadmet,wasthechar-womaninstreetattire,andthataclosetwassetasideinthebuilding,forthespecialpurposeofhermorningandeveningtransformations,whichsheunderwentinthebeliefthathersocialpositioninAvenueAwouldsuffer,shouldsheappearinthestreetswearinganythinglesscostlythanseal-skinandvelvetorsuchimitationsofthoseexpensivematerialsasherstipendwouldpermit。
IhaveastenantsofasmallwoodenhouseinJerseyCity,abankclerk,hiswifeandtheirthreedaughters。Heearnsintheneighborhoodoffifteenhundreddollarsayear。Theirrent(withwhich,bytheway,theyarealwaysinarrears)isthreehundreddollars。Iamfavoredspringandautumnbyavisitfromtheladiesofthatfamily,inthehope(generallyfutile)ofinducingmetodosomeornamentalpaperingorpaintingintheirresidence,subjectsonwhichtheyhavebyexperiencefoundmyagenttobeunapproachable。Whenthosefourwomendescenduponme,Iamfairlydazzledbythesplendoroftheirattire,andlostinwonderastohowthepriceofallthatfinerycanhavebeensqueezedoutofthetwelveremaininghundredsoftheirincome。WhenImeetthefatherheisshabbytotheouterlimitsofthegenteel。Hishathas,Iamsure,supportedthesunsandsnowstormsofadozenseasons。Thereisathreadbareshineonhisapparelthatsuggestsaheartacheineachwhitenedseam,buttheladiesaremirrorsoffashion,aswellasmouldsofform。Whatcanremainforanycreaturecomfortsafterallthosefineclotheshavebeenpaidfor?Andhowmuchisputawayfortheyearswhenthelong-sufferingmoneymakerwillbepastwork,orsavedtowardsthetimewhensicknessoraccidentshallappearonthehorizon?Howthoseladieshadthe\"nerve\"toenteraferryboatorcrowdintoacablecar,dressedastheywere,hasalwaysbeenamarveltome。Alandauandtwoliveriedservantswouldbarelyhavebeeninkeepingwiththeirappearance。
Notlongago,agreatEnglishnobleman,whoisalsofamousintheyachtingworld,visitedthiscountryaccompaniedbyhistwodaughters,high-bredandgenialladies。Noself-respectingAmericanshopgirlorfashionabletypewriterwouldhavecondescendedtoappearintheinexpensiveattirewhichthoseEnglishwomenwore。Whereveronemetthem,atdinner,FETE,orball,theywerealwaysthemostsimplydressedwomenintheroom。
Iwonderifiteveroccurredtoanyoftheirgorgeouslyattiredhostesses,thatitwasbecausetheirtransatlanticguestsweresosureoftheirposition,thattheycontentedthemselveswithsuchsimpletoiletsknowingthatnothingtheymightwearcouldeitherimproveoraltertheirstandingInformerages,sumptuarylawswereenactedbyparentalgovernments,inthehopeofsuppressingextravaganceindress,thestateofaffairswedeplorenow,notbeinganewdevelopmentofhumanweakness,butasoldaswealth。
Thedesiretoshinebythesplendorofone\'strappingsisthefirstideaoftheparvenu,especiallyhereinthiscountry,wheretheambitiousaredeniedthepleasureofacquiringatitle,andwhereofficialrankcarrieswithitsolittlesocialweight。Fewmorestrikingwayspresentthemselvestothecrudeandhalf-educatedfortheexpenditureofanewfortunethanthepurchaseofsumptuousapparel,thesatisfactionbeingimmediateandmaterial。Thewearerofacompleteandperfecttoiletmustexperienceadelightofwhichtheuninitiatedknownothing,forsuchcruelsacrificesaremadeandsomanyprivationsenduredtoprocurethissatisfaction。WhenIseegroupsofwomen,cladinthelatestdesignsofpurpleandfinelinen,standshiveringonstreetcornersofawinternight,untiltheycancrowdintoacar,Idoubtifthejoytheygetfromtheirclothes,compensatesthemforthecreaturecomfortstheyareforcedtoforego,andIwonderifitneveroccurstothemtospendlessontheirwardrobesandsofeeltheycanaffordtoreturnfromatheatreorconcertcomfortably,inacab,asaforeignwoman,withtheirincomewoulddo。
ThereisastoicaldeterminationabouttheAmericanpointofviewthatcompelsacertainamountofrespect。Ourcountrywomenwilldenythemselvespleasures,willeconomizeontheirfoodandwillremainintownduringthesummer,butwhenwalkingabroadtheymustbecladinthebest,sothatnoonemayknowbytheirappearanceiftheincomebecountedbyhundredsorthousands。
Whilethesestandardsprevailandthefemalemindisfixedonthissubjectwithsuchdireintent,itisnotastonishingthataweakersisterisoccasionallytemptedbeyondherpowersofresistance。
Northateachdayanewcaseofawell-dressedwomanthievinginashopreachesourears。Thepoorfeeble-mindedcreatureisnottoblame。SheisbutthereflexionofthemindsaroundherandisprobablyliketheladyEmersontellsof,whoconfessedtohim\"thatthesenseofbeingperfectlywell-dressedhadgivenherafeelingofinwardtranquillitywhichreligionwaspowerlesstobestow。\"
CHAPTER5-OnSomeGildedMisalliancesADEARoldAmericanlady,wholivedthegreaterpartofherlifeinRome,andreceivedeverybodyworthknowinginherspaciousdrawing-rooms,farupinthedimvastnessesofaRomanpalace,usedtosaythatshehadonlyknownonereallyhappymarriagemadebyanAmericangirlabroad。
Inthosedays,beingyoungandinnocent,Iconsideredthatremarkcynical,andinmyheartthoughtnothingcouldbemoreromanticandcharmingthanforafaircompatriottoassumeanhistorictitleandretiretoherhusband\'sestates,andrulesmilinglyoverhimandadevotedtenantry,asinthelastactofacomicopera,whenarose-
coloredlightisburningandtheorchestraplaysthelastbrilliantchordsofaweddingmarch。
Thereseemedtomypervertedsenseacertainpoeticjusticeaboutthefactthatmoney,gainedhonestlybutprosaically,ingroceriesorgas,shouldgotoregildanancientblazonorpropupthecrumblingwallsofsomestatelypalaceabroad。
Manythoughtfulyearsandmanycruelrealitieshavetaughtmethatmygracioushostessofthe\"seventies\"wasright,andthatmarriageundertheseconditionsisapttobemuchmorelikethecomicoperaafterthecurtainhasbeenrungdown,whenthelightsareout,theapplaudingpublicgonehome,andthewearyactorsbroughtslowlybacktothepresentandthepositive,arewonderinghowtheyaretopaytheirrentordodgethewarrantinambusharoundthecorner。
Internationalmarriagesusuallycomeaboutfromadeficientknowledgeoftheworld。Thefatherbecomesrich,thefamilytravelabroad,somemutualfriend(oftenfrompurelyinterestedmotives)
producesasuitorforthehandofthedaughter,intheshapeofa\"prince\"withatitlethatmakesthewholesimpleAmericanfamilyquiverwithdelight。